Category archive: Parents/Children/Family

More great family-history material

Last night, I had dinner with family, and audio-recorded some family stories, and received two amazing troves of family documents:... (More...)

Letters from my mother to her parents

We've digitized a set of 23 letters from my mother to her parents, dated 1964 through 1968; I've been posting... (More...)

Another last-minute Hugo scramble

I spent today mostly hanging out with family, which was great. Saw one niece in a production of Lion King... (More...)

Letters from Marcy: Dec 1964

A couple years ago, I was given an amazing trove: a dozen letters from my mother to her parents, written... (More...)

Twelve years

Twelve years ago today, my father was killed. I've been off-kilter for the past couple weeks; sometimes fine, sometimes sad... (More...)

Another FBI-file update

In today's mail: Another envelope from the FBI! In response to my FOIA request about my father, which I filed... (More...)

Helen describes herself (1931)

Among my old family papers is a folder containing a handwritten document by my grandmother Helen, in which she described... (More...)

Anniversaries update

For weeks, I've been meaning to post here, but I keep shying away, for reasons not entirely clear to me.... (More...)

Addiction, adult children of alcoholics, etc

I recently had occasion to stop by Addiction is..., a collection of about fifteen nonfiction pieces that, individually and together,... (More...)

Lovely short VR video: "Pearl"

A while back, Google created a system for viewing VR/360° videos called “Google Spotlight Stories.” You can view the short... (More...)

More dreams

Dreamed I was watching an amazing sunset, with impressionistic splotches of fiery purple and sullen bruise-like maroon and bright crimson... (More...)

Introducing the Hansons

Last month, I posted about the Olsons—my grandmother's mother and aunts and uncles, at least twelve of them in all.... (More...)

Introducing the Olsons, or the Olsens

About a year ago, I started going through the then-newly-digitized photos of my grandmother Helen's family. And I got a... (More...)

FBI file, continued

It's always a little disconcerting to get an envelope from the FBI. But in this case, it was another set... (More...)

Remaining free books: trade paperbacks and hardcovers

Here's the list of all the remaining trade paperbacks and hardcovers that I'm giving away. Let me know if you... (More...)

Remaining free books: mass-market paperbacks

The book giveaway has been a success so far; out of the 400+ books I started with, 150+ have now... (More...)

More free books! Part 5 of 5: Shakespeare to Zopol

My final batch of giveaway hardcovers and trade paperbacks: William Shakespeare through Felicia Zopol. If you want any of them,... (More...)

More free books! Part 4 of 5: Milstead to Schneider

Today's batch of giveaway hardcovers and trade paperbacks: John W. Milstead et al through Michael S. Schneider. If you want... (More...)

More free books! Part 3 of 5: Goto to Merritt

Today's batch of giveaway hardcovers and trade paperbacks: Hiromi Goto through A. Merritt. If you want any of them, let... (More...)

More free books! Part 2 of 5: Clarke to Gombrich

Today's batch of giveaway hardcovers and trade paperbacks: Arthur C. Clarke through E. H. Gombrich. If you want any of... (More...)

More free books! Part 1 of 5: Adams to Christian

Over the past couple of weeks, I posted about mass-market paperbacks I'm giving away. Today's post is the beginning of... (More...)

Free books! Part 8 of 8: van Vogt to X-Men

Here's the final batch of the mass-market paperbacks that I'm giving away: A. E. van Vogt through X-Men. I'm also adding... (More...)

Free books! Part 7 of 8: Simmons to Lao Tzu

Here's batch 7 of the mass-market paperbacks that I'm giving away: Dan Simmons through Lao Tzu (who my catalog software... (More...)

Free books! Part 6 of 8: Mason to Silverberg

Here's batch 6 of the mass-market paperbacks that I'm giving away: Lisa Mason through Robert Silverberg. (For more info on... (More...)

Free books! Part 5 of 8: Heller to Marx

Here's batch 5 of the mass-market paperbacks that I'm giving away: Heller through Groucho Marx. (For more info on the... (More...)

Sad week

Tomorrow will be the eleventh anniversary of the day my father was killed. As is often the case this time... (More...)

Living in the future: Floppies

In one of the boxes I pulled out of the garage a couple weeks ago, there were 100+ 3.5" floppy... (More...)

Free books! Part 4 of 8: Disch to Heinlein

Here's batch 4 of the mass-market paperbacks that I'm giving away: Disch through Heinlein. (For more info on the giveaway... (More...)

Free books! Part 3 of 8: Dick

Here's batch 3 of the mass-market paperbacks that I'm giving away: thirty-nine books by Philip K. Dick. (For more info... (More...)

Free books! Part 2 of 8: Carr to Delany

Here's the second batch of mass-market paperbacks that I'm giving away: Terry Carr through Samuel R. Delany. (For more info,... (More...)

Free books! Part 1 of 8: Abe to Capek

Over the past few months, I've been gathering together books that I want to give away (with a great deal... (More...)

Nancy's photo album

In a box the other day, I found a photo album of Nancy's, which I rescued from Peter and Nancy's... (More...)

General updates

Happy 2016, everyone! I have been woefully remiss in posting here of late. I've been posting much more often to... (More...)

On first looking into Gary Snyder

Among the books I rescued from my father's house were six books of poems by Gary Snyder. I don't know... (More...)

Old Analog issues, free to a good home

I'm giving away about 170 back issues of Analog. Let me know if you're interested. Details follow. My father had... (More...)

So far this morning

Today would've been my mother's 72nd birthday. Hard to imagine her at 72. As usual, here's a link to some... (More...)

Letters from Peter: Haircuts

More old letters! This time they're from my father to my uncle, apparently from the early 1970s. (They're all undated,... (More...)

My middle name

I recently came across a remarkable thing: A file folder full of letters that my mother wrote to her parents... (More...)

Ten years

Today marks the tenth anniversary of my father's death. I'm doing surprisingly okay this morning; if anything, a little less... (More...)

Thoughts on deaths of parents

Although this entry was partly sparked by the recent deaths of several friends' parents, it's going to be focused specifically... (More...)

People's parents dying, and other hard times

The past few months have been difficult times for a lot of my friends. I feel like all through the... (More...)

Fathers and stories: "Emerson's Chevrolet"

I've written before about marvelous storyteller Willy Claflin. Today in the car his story “Emerson's Chevrolet” came up in my... (More...)

More from my father's FBI files

It was over a year ago that I received a copy of my father's FBI file, 272 pages of photocopied... (More...)

Long ago, it must be

Today would have been my father's 75th birthday. It's also the 34th anniversary of my mother's death. I wasn't feeling... (More...)

My mother's birthday

My mother would've been 71 years old today. I've apparently been confused in past birthday entries about what year she... (More...)

Kids, part 1: first contact

(First in a planned series of posts about my interactions with friends' kids.) I didn't have much to do with... (More...)

Nine years

My father was killed nine years ago today. This year I've been pretty much okay. I noticed the impending anniversary... (More...)

Mood swingy

(For anyone missing the context: Today is the 33rd anniversary of my mother's death, and it would've been my father's... (More...)

What I've been up to (and why I've been glum)

Have spent most of the past week doing webmastery kinds of things for last night's launch of Jaggery, Mary Anne's... (More...)


Friday night, I belatedly remembered that I have strategies and techniques for improving my mood. So I rewatched a Gilmore... (More...)

My father's FBI file

As I noted a month ago, last August I filed a Freedom of Information request to get a copy of... (More...)

Eight years

It's now been eight years since my father was killed. I still miss him. As I noted the other day,... (More...)

Freedom of Information requests are slow

It occurred to me a few years ago that it would be interesting to get ahold of my father's FBI... (More...)

Unstrung Heroes

I first saw the 1995 movie Unstrung Heroes in late 1996, and I liked it a lot. I bought it... (More...)

Today's birthdays: Traces and echoes

Today would've been my father's 73rd birthday. It's also the 32nd anniversary of my mother's death. I'm doing okay today... (More...)

Marcy's birthday

My mother would've been 69 years old today. So far I've been mostly okay, but with a couple of gusts... (More...)

Remembering Peter and Marcy

Today would have been my father's 72nd birthday. It's also the 31st anniversary of my mother's death. I haven't been... (More...)

Self-reliant kids

An exchange between Karen and Jeremiah reminded me of this line: You bring up your children to be self-reliant and... (More...)

Marcy's birthday

Today would have been my mother's sixty-eighth birthday. (Sixty-eight? Really? She was only thirty-seven when she died; it's really hard... (More...)

Missing parents

Today would have been my father's 71st birthday. It's also the 30th anniversary of my mother's death. I was mostly... (More...)

Marcy's birthday

Today my mother would have been sixty-seven years old. I'm not sure I can really imagine her at sixty-seven. She... (More...)


Mary Anne just handed Anand a chunk of bread or something. As she left the room, she said to me:... (More...)

Happy Mother's Day!

A lot of my friends are mothers these days. To all of you who are, or have been, or expect... (More...)

Blogging about my father

Two weeks ago, on the anniversary of my father's death, I finally decided to get moving on a project I'd... (More...)

My brother's 25 Things list

A month ago, my brother Jay posted his own 25 Things list, in two parts: part 1, part 2. Good... (More...)

Mary Anne on sleep deprivation and babies

I think there are a lot of things that we as a society don't like to talk about, a lot... (More...)

The night has been long, ditto ditto my song

Let's try that again. The past couple weeks have been kind of a blur. Or a daze. Or a dazed... (More...)

A bit fragile today

Today would have been my father's 70th birthday. Hard to imagine him being 70. But then, even while he was... (More...)

What I've been up to, October 2009 edition

Just noticed that it's been over a month since I've posted a life update. Not a whole lot going on,... (More...)

Maurice Sendak is so gay

Happened across a passing reference this morning to Sendak having come out last year (at age 80); looked it up... (More...)

Agent X-19

I'll post more about the weekend soon, but wanted to mention one tidbit while I was thinking of it: On... (More...)

Happy 0th birthday, Anandan!

Today, Mary Anne gave birth (via C-section) to her and Kevin's new son Anandan. Welcome to the world! Sounds like... (More...)

Items: Babies 'n' stuff

There were just barely enough items here to be worth pulling out into a separate entry. New York Times article:... (More...)

Marcy's birthday

Besides all the travel, the other reason that I'm trying to conserve my emotional energy at the moment is that... (More...)

Welcome, Sarah!

Beth and C's daughter Sarah was born this past Monday morning (two days ago) around 3 a.m., which coincidentally was... (More...)

Marcy photos

I recently bought a photo to digital converter. It's basically a digital camera in a box; you slide the print... (More...)

Happy Mother's Day!

And since it's singular, I mean that as happy Mother's Day to each and every individual one of you who... (More...)

A couple of recent pregnancy announcements

Mary Anne has just announced that she's pregnant! She's due in early October. Congratulations to her and Kevin, and if... (More...)

Happy 0th birthday, Juniper!

I only just learned that Juniper has arrived in the outside world (the morning of Monday the 30th), after an... (More...)

To sleep and cry in LA (baby remix)

Entry title, of course, refers to the famous movie about a fearless baby who will stop at nothing to get... (More...)

Yes niece is good niece

I am delighted to announce the birth of my new niece, Avery. Everyone concerned appears to be doing well. Jay... (More...)

Palin and parenting

I'm shocked to discover that, probably for the first time ever, I agree with Ann Coulter. An ABC News article... (More...)

Happy Mother's Day!

I meant to post an entry this morning to say: Happy Mother's Day to all of you who are mothers!... (More...)

Advice for parents of newborns

Mary Anne has posted a detailed list of things she wishes she'd known before having a baby. Yeah, I know,... (More...)

Welcome, Rowan!

Babies are popping up everywhere these days. The latest addition is Dan and N's son Rowan, born on the evening... (More...)

Welcome, Samuel!

Samuel was born this morning about 3 a.m., about three weeks earlier than expected. Everyone involved is healthy and doing... (More...)

Baby news

A few tidbits about this fall's crop of babies among my friends: Dan P has finally gotten around to announcing... (More...)

Welcome, River!

I somehow completely missed the fact that Heather had her baby! More specifically, Tim notes that River Alexander Pratt Shaw... (More...)

The baby and the clour

Today I drove up to Oakland to work "at home"--which is to say, at Mary Anne and Kevin's place. Mary... (More...)

Assorted parenting commentary

A few weeks back, I happened across an excerpt from Mommies Who Drink, by Brett Paesel. My favorite bit is... (More...)

New blog about my father

I've been thinking about doing this for at least a year now, but had some hesitations about it. I've finally... (More...)

How to (and how not to) praise kids

There was a fascinating article by Po Bronson in New York Magazine this past February, titled "How Not to Talk... (More...)


This morning, I was half-listening to iTunes on shuffle play again, and one of my two or three favorite pieces... (More...)


I recently discovered that the Uncle Bonsai albums are available on CD. They're still not available via the iTunes Store,... (More...)

Gabrielle's story

On December 1, 1997 (almost ten years ago), I received an odd piece of email, from someone I didn't know,... (More...)

Productivity and thunderstorms, baby

I did very little magazine work while I was in Boston. In the past two days, though, I've read about... (More...)

Grommet en route

I've been meaning to mention that Beth's wife C is pregnant; she's now in her second trimester. Congratulations again! They're... (More...)

Welcome, baby Kavya!

Mary Anne's sister Mirna just called to let me know that Mary Anne and Kevin's baby, Kavya, was born at... (More...)

Two years

March 7, 2005, was the day my father was murdered, though we didn't find out until the 8th. I thought... (More...)

Items: news, congratulations, etc

A few assorted tidbits I've been meaning to mention: adfamiliares and jere7my got engaged! J7y also posted a great photo... (More...)

Book-shifting day, plus the Chicago Seven trial

This morning, I went over to Pam & Arthur's to help them move furniture and books; they're rearranging a bunch... (More...)


Tomorrow/today (Saturday the 11th) would have been my father's 67th birthday. It's also the 26th anniversary of my mother's death.... (More...)

Father's Day plus assorted miscellany

Belated happy Father's Day to all y'all fathers! I hope you had a splendid day. My day was okay. Slow... (More...)


Some assorted photos, and some thoughts about public posting of photos: Thanks to my Uncle Dobe for providing a really... (More...)

Parental blogging

It occurred to me the other day that a fair number of people I know blog occasionally or regularly about... (More...)

Mother's Day and birthdays and such

Belated happy Mother's Day to all of the mothers reading this! I'm always impressed by y'all. And, more generally, yay... (More...)

One year

Today is the first anniversary of my father's murder. (More...)

Assorted notes about Peter

The other morning I had a dream in which I was talking with some kind of a counselor, in her... (More...)

In memoriam

Today would have been my father's 66th birthday. It's also the 25th anniversary of my mother's death. I'm staying home... (More...)

Annual memoriam

My mother, Marcy, would have been 62 years old today. I wrote that linked-to piece sixteen years ago; glancing over... (More...)

In more serious news

WorldCon's been nothing if not distracting. I've managed to go hours at a time without thinking about stuff about my... (More...)

Father's Day

Happy Father's Day to all of you who are fathers. May your children bring you happiness, joy, and the occasional... (More...)

Counseling report

Had my first grief-counseling appointment. I think it went pretty well. I told the doctor at the start that I... (More...)

Peter memorial article

The Pierce College student newspaper, the Pioneer, ran a front-page story about Peter, along with a couple of sidebars and... (More...)

How'm I doing?

People have been (quite reasonably) asking how I'm doing lately, and I don't have a good answer. Mostly I say... (More...)


All week, I've been thinking, "Oh, right, that's the thing I was going to post about." But I keep thinking... (More...)

Old family tidbits

My uncle Dobe sent out email a few months ago pointing to some websites containing information about our family history.... (More...)

More stuff

The past few days have been kind of a blur, even though very little has been happening. I'm slowly getting... (More...)

Rose's mustache, and calculating devices

I got D&J's permission, so here's the photo of Rose and her mustache. Moments after I took that photo, Rose... (More...)

Back home

Long entry here, just general updates on the past couple days. Saturday evening before I posted that last entry, I... (More...)

Another update

The continued outpouring of support in comments and email is just about making me cry as I sit here in... (More...)


Here's some of what I've been thankful for this week: Kam. She's been amazing. Strong and capable, holding me when... (More...)


In lieu of flowers, the family would prefer donations to the Pierce College Foundation in the name of Peter Hartman... (More...)


Kam came over this morning, and then came with me to Tacoma. My brother's travel agent took care of the... (More...)


My father just died. That's all I can say right now. I'll be offline and out of contact indefinitely. If... (More...)

Guide to parenting

While looking something up for a story edit, I came across the "String Bag and Octopus Guide to Parenthood," which... (More...)