January 2008 Archives

Experience Comes From Bad Judgment?

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I remember Peter had a (humorous) phrase he used, often, in the later Tacoma years, anyway...

He would say, "Good judgment comes from experience, and often, experience comes from bad judgment.", or something like that, and then he completed it, with the syllogistic punchline eluding me!

If you remember Peter using this phrase, PLEASE take the time to tell me? This has confounded me for the last several years. The memory is there, but for whatever reason, I can't pull it out... I can't complete the thought.

If only I could just pick up the phone and ask Peter!

Consider this a phone. Consider that I have asked.

The Beauty of Peter's Spirit

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Thanks for sharing this personal moment, Linda!

One evening my husband Steve was out on our back deck, when he was overcome with grief and a sob escaped him. Peter was on the other side of the fence, and asked Steve in a most concerned tone of voice, "Is everything all right? Is there anything I can do to help?" Steve, who rarely, if ever, talked about this situation, confided in Peter that sometimes our grief just rolled over us like a wave, and could not be controlled. He explained that his 22 year old son had committed suicide a while ago, after which he became choked up and just couldn't continue speaking. Dear Peter, burst into sobs, saying, "That's the worst thing I've ever heard!". No one could bear it!". And continued to cry as though his heart were broken. We were so moved by his genuine outpouring of compassion, and we will never forget his true kindness. Steve and I viewed Peter in a much different way forever after that... -- Linda
(Peter lived next door to Linda and Steve for several years. -Dobe)

Hobby is doing dishes

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Sorry I haven't posted here in a while.

A recent discussion of cleaning and chores brought this to mind:

Peter was not, in my memory, the cleanest/neatest person ever, but he was certainly less messy/cluttered than I am.

Most of the time, when I was a kid, he didn't seem to notice the clutter. But every once in a while, he would suddenly decide that the house (or at least my room) needed cleaning. He always said the same thing about it: "This place is a pigsty!"

A while after Marcy died, when Peter began looking for a partner again, he placed an ad in the newspaper that started out "Hobby is doing dishes." He figured that would get women's attention. Jay asked him something like, "If doing dishes is your hobby, how come Jed and I have to do them so often?" Peter replied, "I like my hobby so much that I want to share it."

I think he worked for a while as a janitor (at a nursing home, maybe?) when I was a kid. Later, when he and Nancy were living in Tacoma, I got the impression that he basically did all the cleaning chores around the house. As far as I could tell, he was perfectly happy with that arrangement, and he kept the place pretty clean.