{"id":17178,"date":"2018-04-03T16:05:33","date_gmt":"2018-04-03T23:05:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/?p=17178"},"modified":"2018-04-03T16:05:33","modified_gmt":"2018-04-03T23:05:33","slug":"the-difficulty-of-metacommunication","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/2018\/04\/03\/the-difficulty-of-metacommunication\/","title":{"rendered":"The difficulty of metacommunication"},"content":{"rendered":"\r\n<p>It sometimes happens that I\u2019m tense or upset because of something that\u2019s going on, and I talk with someone who isn\u2019t connected to that something, and I behave badly. I get irritable and impatient and snappish and argumentative, and I don\u2019t phrase things carefully.<\/p>\r\n<p>And sometimes while I\u2019m doing that, I know that I\u2019m doing it and I even know why I\u2019m doing it. But somehow, explicitly communicating about why I\u2019m doing it is more than I can manage.<\/p>\r\n<p>I\u2019m trying to get better about that. I just got into an online argument at work (about a technical issue) that I caused to be more heated than it needed to be, and after several rounds of my overreacting to what the other person was saying, I finally explicitly said that (a) I appreciated what the other person was trying to do, and (b) I\u2019m on edge about the active-shooter situation and thus not communicating well. And I stepped away from the computer to calm down.<\/p>\r\n<p>But I sure do find it hard to say that kind of thing when I get into this frame of mind. I\u2019m not sure why; it seems like obviously the right thing to do. But somehow hard for me.<\/p>\r\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[113],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17178","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-communication"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17178","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17178"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17178\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":17179,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17178\/revisions\/17179"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17178"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17178"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17178"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}