{"id":17364,"date":"2018-07-16T23:06:14","date_gmt":"2018-07-17T06:06:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/?p=17364"},"modified":"2018-07-17T08:23:38","modified_gmt":"2018-07-17T15:23:38","slug":"assorted-insights","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/2018\/07\/16\/assorted-insights\/","title":{"rendered":"Assorted insights"},"content":{"rendered":"\r\n<p>A day of interesting-to-me insights and thoughts. But no time\/energy to write them up in any detail, so a couple of notes-to-self as reminders (each of these could be a full entry in itself if I had time and if I were more awake):<\/p>\r\n<ul>\r\n  <li>This morning, it suddenly occurred to me while I was driving that instead of my usual drive-consistently-4-to-5-MPH-over-the-speed-limit, I could try driving right at, or no more than 2 MPH above, the speed limit, and be in less of a hurry. I know that doesn\u2019t sound like much of a change, but from an internal perspective, it\u2019s an interesting new paradigm for me. Perhaps someday I\u2019ll write more about why it\u2019s interesting.<\/li>\r\n  <li>Thinking about that while driving this evening led me to realizing that one of the reasons I like rules is that they reduce the number of decisions I have to make, and I dislike making decisions. (This is a minor side note to a substantial entry about rules that I\u2019ve written in my head many times over the last several years, and may someday manage to write outside of my head.)<\/li>\r\n  <li>When I\u2019m playing games with kids, I generally don\u2019t mind at all if they win; in fact, in some ways I\u2019m happier if they win. But if I feel that they\u2019re behaving badly in any of various ways while winning (especially if they\u2019re winning by a lot), regardless of whether my perception of their behavior is accurate, it turns out that that pushes my buttons. (There was more to the situation tonight than that, but that was part of what was going on in my head.) There\u2019s also something else there that I need to think about more to figure it out\u2014something along the lines of: if I feel like the game was fair, and the other person played well, then I don\u2019t mind losing, but if I feel like I never had a chance, that makes me grumpy. (That\u2019s not entirely or always accurate, but it\u2019s somewhere in the right direction. And it more or less applies to games with adults or with bots, too.) I think I can be more aware of my reactions and thus moderate them more; there\u2019s almost never a good reason for my getting irritated and snappish with a kid over a game.<\/li>\r\n  <li>Speaking of games: I\u2019ve known for a while that I don\u2019t tend to like games that focus heavily on dice. But I only now consciously realized that a lot of the reason for that is that my perception of probability is flawed around dice. When I know that a particular roll has, say, an 80% chance of succeeding, then in my head that feels like it should always succeed. When I know that it has a slightly less than 50% chance of succeeding, then I get upset if it seems to me to happen a lot more than that (or a lot less than that). Somehow with cards I\u2019m much more able to recognize how randomness works and be okay with it when I have bad luck; but with dice, bad luck feels unfair to me.<\/li>\r\n  <li>(Insert inchoate thoughts about fairness here, and about ways that privilege contributes to my beliefs about fairness, both in useful and in unfortunate ways.)<\/li>\r\n  <li>Up until the past couple years, in almost all of the donations that I made to organizations, I never had to think about their processing fees, because they handled those fees silently. In the past couple years, I more and more often see contexts where the processing fees are explicit, and it makes me feel surly, like I\u2019m being cheated out of something. If I give $n to an organization, then I dislike all of the options: I don\u2019t want the organization to receive less than the full $n, but I also don\u2019t want to have to give more than $n in order to cover fees, but I also don\u2019t want to have to write and mail a paper check. My thought today is that this is one of those areas where something has always been true, I was just blissfully unaware of it (or at least could easily avoid thinking about it), and I think my resentment has a lot to do with being forced to recognize that it\u2019s true. I\u2019m hoping that awareness of what\u2019s going on in my head will help me to be more reasonable about it. (Also, maybe if I think of the fee as a convenience fee to let me not have to write a paper check, that might help.)<\/li>\r\n  <li>I\u2019ve been moving very slowly on my current main project at work, and have been having a hard time figuring out why. Today I realized that part of the problem is that I\u2019ve been anywhere from drowsy to half-asleep much of the time when I\u2019ve tried to work on it, and that perhaps working on it when more awake might make it easier. (That\u2019s not the only issue, but it might help some.)<\/li>\r\n  <li>I think there was something else, but I\u2019m not remembering what.<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<p>That\u2019s a lot for one day. I also folded and put away some laundry, spent some time with Mary Anne and Kevin and their kids, labeled some photos from 2014, had an interesting discussion at work, made some progress on the abovementioned work project (though not as much as I\u2019d hoped), did a fair bit of driving, bought a couple of toys (a new stuffed animal and a tiny Rubik\u2019s Cube, a little under an inch on a side), played a couple of computer games, ate vegan poke, and had a headache.<\/p>\r\n<p>And now I should probably go do some overdue work for a morning meeting, but I also want to get some other stuff done. We\u2019ll see.<\/p>\r\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[119,29],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17364","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-favorite-entries","category-life-updates"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17364","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17364"}],"version-history":[{"count":15,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17364\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":17384,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17364\/revisions\/17384"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17364"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17364"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17364"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}