{"id":3065,"date":"2005-08-17T10:16:09","date_gmt":"2005-08-17T17:16:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.kith.org\/journals\/jed\/2005\/08\/17\/3065.html"},"modified":"2005-08-17T10:16:09","modified_gmt":"2005-08-17T17:16:09","slug":"annual-memoriam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/2005\/08\/17\/annual-memoriam\/","title":{"rendered":"Annual memoriam"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.kith.org\/logos\/things\/swapa\/distances.html\">My mother<\/a>, Marcy, would have been 62 years old today.<\/p>\n<p>I wrote that linked-to piece sixteen years ago; glancing over it again today, I think the first half may be largely incomprehensible to non-Swarthmore people.  Sorry about that.  I suppose I ought to write something new, but that probably won't happen this year.<\/p>\n<p><img src=\"http:\/\/www.kith.org\/journals\/jed\/pix\/Marcy.jpg\" width=\"210\" height=\"285\" class=\"image-right\" alt=\"Marcy Hartman\" \/>Marcy died, of leukemia, on November 11, 1980; Peter's 41st birthday.  I suspect Nov. 11 will be particularly difficult this year.<\/p>\n<p>It just struck me that I'm now a couple of months <a href=\"http:\/\/www.kith.org\/logos\/journal\/show-entry.php?Entry_ID=2121\">older than Marcy was when she died<\/a>.  I'm trying to come up with something worthwhile to say about that, but I'm not getting anywhere.  My gut feeling is that she was too young, that it wasn't fair; but then, people of all ages die all the time, and it's never fair.<\/p>\n<p>We don't get any guarantees.  Death can come after five years of struggling with illness, or unexpectedly and violently.  Or, for that matter, after many decades of living; one way or another, ain't a one of us gonna get out of this alive.  (Peter used to say something like that, but I don't remember his exact phrasing.  Jay, do you?)<\/p>\n<p>I'd like to be as accepting as whoever from <cite>Pogo<\/cite> said, \"Don't take life so serious, son; it ain't nohow permanent.\"  (Was it Porkypine?  Or maybe a couple of characters said it at different times.)  But I'm afraid I'm more of the \"<a href=\"http:\/\/www.poets.org\/viewmedia.php\/prmMID\/15377\">Rage, rage against the dying of the light<\/a>\" school.  (If you have Flash, you can hear Dylan Thomas reading the poem on that page.)<\/p>\n<p>I think the photo of Marcy here is the one I was referring to in \"Distances and Directions\"; Jay sent me an electronic copy of it back in March.  Thanks again, Jay!<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My mother, Marcy, would have been 62 years old today. I wrote that linked-to piece sixteen years ago; glancing over&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[14,118,63],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3065","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-death","category-parents-children","category-photos"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3065","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3065"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3065\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3065"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3065"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3065"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}