{"id":1666,"date":"1974-09-28T00:01:36","date_gmt":"1974-09-28T07:01:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/pmjj\/?p=1666"},"modified":"2022-08-14T16:18:20","modified_gmt":"2022-08-14T23:18:20","slug":"1974-september-28-letter-from-marcy-to-gh","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/pmjj\/1974\/09\/28\/1974-september-28-letter-from-marcy-to-gh\/","title":{"rendered":"1974, September 28: Letter from Marcy to G&#038;H"},"content":{"rendered":"\r\n<p>Five-page handwritten letter, in red ink, on fairly heavy and slightly rough unlined 7\"x10&half;\" paper.<\/p>\r\n<p>Ages of the kids referred to here:<\/p>\r\n<table style=\"width: 40%; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; margin-top: 15px;\">\r\n  <tr>\r\n    <th>Name<\/th>\r\n    <th>Age<\/th>\r\n  <\/tr>\r\n  <tr>\r\n    <td>Larry<\/td>\r\n    <td>Nearly 16<\/td>\r\n  <\/tr>\r\n  <tr>\r\n    <td>Ivan<\/td>\r\n    <td>14<\/td>\r\n  <\/tr>\r\n  <tr>\r\n    <td>George (foster)<\/td>\r\n    <td>13<\/td>\r\n  <\/tr>\r\n  <tr>\r\n    <td>Jed<\/td>\r\n    <td>6<\/td>\r\n  <\/tr>\r\n  <tr>\r\n    <td>Jay (a.k.a. Joaquin)<\/td>\r\n    <td>4<\/td>\r\n  <\/tr>\r\n<\/table>\r\n<blockquote>\r\n<p class=\"text-right\">Saturday<\/p>\r\n<p class=\"no-indent\">Oh, Thank You <u>Ever<\/u> so much for your timely help. It came the next day and tided us over till we got everything together. Things have been totally crazy here, as usual only more so, and every day I swear to write, and every night I fall into bed barely managing to get myself under the covers <strike>x<\/strike> before I\u2019m fast asleep. We\u2019ve had a week of Ivan freaking out, refusing to do chores or clean his room, now George is taking his turn, refusing to accept any discipline & over and over, despite restrictions & rules, failing to clean up after himself, lying<strike>x<\/strike> & modifying the truth, etcetera.<\/p>\r\n<p>Amazing the clarity of my handwriting, considering I was (almost?) asleep when I wrote that.<\/p>\r\n<p><span class=\"jed-note\">Our dog\u2019s name<\/span>, our foster dog, is in heat, so she has to be walked instead of going out alone. Makes life a little more complex but at least it gets me out in the air, which helps everything else to go better.<\/p>\r\n<p>I just <strike>xxx<\/strike> spoke to an <u>aikido<\/u> friend who says there may be a daytime class\u2014which would be delightful.<\/p>\r\n<p>J & J are extremely happy in school. Joaquin is a little young for the rest of the kids, but he loves it. Jed has two very good friends, one boy is just 6 & the other is 8, and they spend a <u>lot<\/u> of time together, so he gets a break from the after-school rowdies around here. Seems that Jed has always picked up friends easily, \u2019Quin likes to play by himself \u2014 he gets very involved in his own fantasies \u2014 and he also is so used to playing with kids Jed\u2019s age that ones his own age seem too young to him.<\/p>\r\n<p>George & Ivan are also happy in school \u2014 we expect their respective freakouts are due to getting out of \u201cjail\u201d (= public school) so fast, & not quite knowing what to do with the freedom to decide on their own classes & how much time to practice guitar or work on projects\u2014<\/p>\r\n<p>Peter just gave me a haircut\u2014looks good but it\u2019s a little too short \u2014 \u2019Quin got one, too, but Jed is still a longhair. Ivan has taken to wearing a hairband and his &frac14; Indian heritage shows up \u2014 (a blonde Indian?)<\/p>\r\n<p>Larry is about to have his 16th<strike>x<\/strike> birthday & wants to get his driver\u2019s license \u2014 have to check out the insurance (shiver) \u2014 I expect it\u2019s incredible.<\/p>\r\n<p>We moved the stereo into the bedroom \u2014 now we have our <strike>x<\/strike>own \u201capartment\u201d in the evenings. Gettin\u2019 the mending under control, too \u2014 <u>slowly<\/u>.<\/p>\r\n<p>John & Vicki\u2019s visit was a pleasure \u2014 really short, but we had a lovely time together.<\/p>\r\n<p>We finally got the TV in the bedroom hooked up to the cable \u2014 Jed just came in to watch a show about dinosaurs. Guess I\u2019ll vacate \u2014 Jed is into mystery & secret code stories \u2014 so if you run into any at your fantastic gold mine rummage sales, Grandma, he\u2019d be delighted. He can read any up to about a 7th grade level \u2014 he\u2019d really like me to buy him some Nancy Drew mysteries but I\u2019ve refused \u2019cos I think they\u2019d be inappropriate, but he\u2019s devastated because <strike>it has<\/strike> they have \u201cmystery\u201d in the title.<\/p>\r\n<p>\u201cThey\u201d say it\u2019s going to be a long cold winter \u2014 the<strike>x<\/strike> caterpillers (??) in France have begun hibernating & they generally don\u2019t \u2019till November. Wish I had one of those dehydrators for my tomatoes.\u2014We\u2019re going to get some insulation in the attic.\u2014<\/p>\r\n<p>Off to breakfast \u2014 Thanks again for your emergency help.<\/p>\r\n<p class=\"text-right\">love,<\/p>\r\n<p class=\"text-right\">Marcy<\/p>\r\n<\/blockquote>\r\n<p>Amusing Google Docs OCR errors:<\/p>\r\n<ul>\r\n  <li>bedroom: bedrain<\/li>\r\n  <li>secret code: secret cale<\/li>\r\n  <li>hibernating: literesting<\/li>\r\n  <li>love: in the atta<\/li>\r\n  <li>Marcy: buergeree<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<h2>Notes<\/h2>\r\n<dl>\r\n  <dt>September<\/dt>\r\n  <dd>It had been about a year since we had moved to Santa Rosa and started the foster home, give or take a couple of months. By my count, this is roughly the 34th letter from Hearthlight (counting kid art as letters), so we averaged sending George and Helen a letter every eleven days or so during that year. Which I think is a much higher frequency than we managed at any other time.<\/dd>\r\n  <dt>\u201ctimely help\u201d<\/dt>\r\n  <dd>I assume this was yet another emergency infusion of cash from George and Helen.<\/dd>\r\n  <dt>school<\/dt>\r\n  <dd>Jay and I were attending <a href=\"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/jed\/2021\/12\/03\/childhood-stories-redwood-school\/\">Redwood School<\/a>. I\u2019m guessing that the two friends of mine referred to here were Ari and Roger; Roger being the one who played Jagwire Creature in our superhero games. (See linked-to entry.) I vaguely recall Ari being one of my closest friends there, but I don\u2019t remember anything else about him.<\/dd>\r\n  <dt>\u201cJed has always picked up friends easily\u201d<\/dt>\r\n  <dd>I knew that that was true from about 6th grade onward, but didn\u2019t know it had been true so much earlier. Interesting. (I also don\u2019t know <em>why<\/em> it\u2019s true; it just seems to happen, somehow. But I am grateful for it.)<\/dd>\r\n  <dt>\u201cfreedom to decide on their own classes\u201d<\/dt>\r\n  <dd>It never occurred to me until I read this letter to wonder where the foster kids went to school. I\u2019m now guessing, based on this letter and a later one, that they attended Nonesuch, the alternative school for kids who were too old for Redwood School.<\/dd>\r\n  <dt>\u201cJed is still a longhair\u201d<\/dt>\r\n  <dd>Still true! :) Well, OK, more like <em>again<\/em> true; I\u2019m writing these notes in August of 2022, when my hair is, I think, longer than it\u2019s ever been before, down to about the middle of my back.<\/dd>\r\n  <dt>\u201cJed is into mystery & secret code stories\u201d<\/dt>\r\n  <dd>I continued to like secret codes for a long time (I guess I still do), but at some point I stopped being all that interested in mysteries.<\/dd>\r\n  <dd>Interesting that Marcy didn\u2019t want me to read Nancy Drew books. I wonder what in particular she considered inappropriate about them. I later was a big fan of the Three Investigators kids-solving-mysteries series, but I never did read Nancy Drew. Or the Hardy Boys, which I think Jay got into at some point.<\/dd>\r\n  <dt>\u201cHe can read any up to about a 7th grade level\u201d<\/dt>\r\n  <dd>I was a little smug and impressed with myself when I read this line; I was in the equivalent of 1st grade at the time, and I had only been reading for a couple of years. But then I reminded myself that I have no idea what Marcy was basing that estimate on, or how accurate it was. And then I reminded myself that I\u2019ve always been kinda dubious about the idea of grade levels for reading anyway.<\/dd>\r\n<\/dl>\r\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A thank-you note and general life update from Marcy. \u201cPeter just gave me a haircut\u2014looks good but it\u2019s a little too short\u2014\u2019Quin got one, too, but Jed is still a longhair.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,14],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1666","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-from-marcy","category-hearthlight"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/pmjj\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1666","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/pmjj\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/pmjj\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/pmjj\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/pmjj\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1666"}],"version-history":[{"count":27,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/pmjj\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1666\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1713,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/pmjj\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1666\/revisions\/1713"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/pmjj\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1666"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/pmjj\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1666"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kith.org\/pmjj\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1666"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}