I’ve been reading quite a bit about the arguments, political and social, that have erupted over the marriage question. One thing that I still notice is the absence of sex from the discussion.\n
It seems obvious to me that if same-sex marriage becomes legal, that there will be in the future more and better same-sex sex. That’s a positive, from my point of view; when my daughter is twenty-five, I’d prefer that she will have a fulfilling lesbian sex life than a lousy straight sex life. The more role models of contented couples (or for that matter triples) there are of whatever gender makeup, the better for her, as she’s more likely to ultimately happily find her own life. That’s my own opinion. I want her to be (a) happy and (b) good, and I don’t think ‘good’ excludes ‘engages in certain consensual sex acts’.\n
If, however, you think that sex acts between women, or between men, are inherently sinful—or if you think that they are inherently degrading, harmful, or dangerous—it seems clear that married couples claiming (to this view, erroneously) that they are happy, will lead people to think they might find happiness that way. And, of course, many people think even sex between a man and a woman is inherently degrading, harmful, or dangerous, and that it’s only OK within a marriage. That is, the marriage gives permission for the sex.\n
I guess I’d put it like this. If you have a son, and you think it is possible that your son might someday feel a slight glimmering of sexual attraction to another male, whilst drunk, perhaps, how would you want that son to react? With revulsion or with (cautious) warmth? Do you think that having legal (and in at least a few cases, celebrated) marriages between gay men would inform that reaction? Same-sex marriage does not endanger my two-sex marriage, but it may endanger your putative son’s, insofar as it opens other options to him.\n
Redintegro Iraq,
-Vardibidian.\n<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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