Wedding addendum
It occurs to me that various people read this journal whose weddings I've attended, so I should note that I've liked almost every wedding I've been to; it pleases me to see people who care about each other make a public commitment to each other, particularly if one or more of them are friends of mine, and to be a witness to such an event. And there are a remarkable variety of cool ways to get married. So to say that Arthur & Pam's was one of my favorites was meant as high praise indeed.
It's interesting: I managed to pick up the part of the romantic ideal that glorifies marriage without (for the most part) becoming interested in it for myself in the slightest. Which leaves me in an ideal position to appreciate weddings, most of the time; I get to be happy for the people getting married, without feeling any implicit criticism of my unmarried state.
. . . There's plenty more to be said on the subject of singlehood and relationships, and whether it's easier to be secure about being unmarried when you attend a wedding with one or more people with whom you can hold hands, but it would take more time and energy and concentration than I can muster right now, so it's back to reading subs for me.