Not my favorite day ever

The day started on the wrong foot—I woke up too early, decided to get up and get some magazine reading done, but instead apparently spent an hour and a half dozing and trying to get up, 'cause by the time I was on my feet, it was time to go to work.

And then at work I found out that within a month or two, I'll be working in San Francisco instead of Redwood Shores. (Others had bigger changes, but I'm only gonna complain here about the part that directly affects me.) I realize that many of you will have absolutely no sympathy for me; I realize that I've been spoiled by having short commutes for the past ten years, and that lots of people have very long commutes. Nonetheless, I'm very unhappy about this change.

It takes me roughly 20 minutes to drive to the Redwood Shores office each day, in the absence of traffic. When I first took the job, I wasn't entirely happy about even that much commute, having spent most of the previous five years living within a 10-minute drive of work. But I've gotten resigned to it over the years.

My new commute would be roughly 50 minutes without traffic (and there's almost always traffic) if I were willing to drive. But I hate driving in or near San Francisco (or cities in general, really), and parking near the SF office is expensive when it exists at all. (Add at least ten minutes to the morning commute for finding parking.) And I don't like the idea of spending an hour and a half a day driving; I can't do anything else while I'm driving. I could listen to books-on-tape, but I don't really have much interest in that. Radio and music are fine, but not something I want to spend 90 minutes a day on. And then there's the pollution (though my car gets extremely good gas mileage).

My other option is to take CalTrain. There's a station 20 minutes from my house by bike, and another (that has a car parking lot) that's a 15-minute drive from my house. The train takes about an hour and a quarter to get to the end of the line in San Francisco, and then it's a 20-minute walk to the office.

Certainly 40 minutes of walking each day will be good for me; I don't get enough exercise. And certainly I'll often be able to use the time on the train to read, write, or sleep.

But I really hate the notion of having to spend two hours to get to work, and of spending four hours a day in transit. Not to mention having to leave the house an hour and 40 minutes earlier in order to get to work at the same time.

Which may end up meaning that I'll bite the bullet and drive, I dunno. Either way, I'm losing a minimum of an hour a day of productive time, and I already don't have enough time to do everything I want to do in a day.

I'm hoping I can work at home more—I've been working at home one day a week, and I'm hoping I can increase that to two or even three. Haven't had a chance to find out yet. We'll see.

One other small disgruntlement about all this: I've just finally gotten into the habit of hanging out at Pam &Arthur's place one night a week, seeing them and the kidlet. That's been feasible 'cause they live very close to where I work, so I can stop by after work. I suppose I could drive up to Redwood City one day a week and take the train from there, then go to their place on the way home. But it would mean getting to their place around 9 p.m. instead of around 7.

Oy—I just realized this is going to play havoc with my eating schedule. I usually leave work at 7ish p.m. (because traffic is too heavy to be worth dealing with before then), which gets me home in time to eat before 8ish most of the time. But leaving the SF office at 7 gets me home around 9, by which time I'll be starving. Which means I'll need to eat in the city most nights (or else shift to an earlier work schedule in addition to leaving for work much earlier, but I don't think I can deal with leaving for work two and a half hours earlier than I do now). Too expensive to eat out most nights, so I'll have to start bringing dinner to work. Or something. Ugh.

Did I mention I'm very unhappy about this?

13 Responses to “Not my favorite day ever”

  1. naomi_traveller

    oof. sympathies on the commute. (selfishly, it occurred to me that this makes it easier for me to hop into the city and meet you for coffee of an evening…)

    you might also want to look into carpool/vanpool as an alternative to driving.

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  2. Jed

    Hey, yeah—seeing Naomi in SF would definitely be a plus.

    Carpool/vanpool conceivably possible (esp. since I have a co-worker who lives just a few blocks from me), but my schedule is so erratic (and so much later than most people’s) that I don’t know if it would work. But definitely something to consider. Although I suspect that would turn the commute into social time, which I suspect would tire me out.

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  3. Claris

    Oh, I’ve commuted to SF. I couldn’t believe how much time it ate up! Horrible Bay Area transit system…to think ours is better than most in the US. *shudder*

    People from OWWSFF encouraged me to look for you at APE, but there were too many guys there who roughly fit your description! It was a good time though.

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  4. Bondgirl

    Well, that stinks. I don’t know what to say other than it stinks. I hope you can convince whoever needs to be convinced that you’ll be more productive if you work from home two or three days. The fact you’ve been doing it one day a week and nothing has imploded or exploded should help your case.

    Sympathies.

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  5. Amy Sisson

    Jed. You DO have (and deserve) more sympathy than you know. Ugh! I hope the powers-that-be have good reason for this change, and that it’s not just boredrom and/or let’s-look-like-we’re-doing-something-so-we-better-make-some-changes.

    In Albany NY, where I lived until recently, the NYS government decided to vitalize the downtown by moving State workers from their spacious campus with free parking to congested downtown with no parking or very expensive parking — as if it’s the personal responsibility of State workers to make sure the downtown is revitalized. I really dislike when workers are treated like pawns in that way. The Albany newspaper said the State workers were whiny, and neglected to mention that the newspaper itself had moved OUT of downtown a dozen years before due to parking and office expense. And then someone had the gall to write in and say that State workers should be *required* to take an hour lunch, as opposed to the half-hour lunch many of them take, so they’ll be more likely to eat in restaurants and support the downtown businesses.

    Sorry — more than you needed to know — but it’s a pet peeve. Good luck with your adjustments. I was very apprehensive about the commuting issue upon moving to Houston, but have been lucky enough to find a job with only a 25-30 minute drive (extremely good in Houston).

    — Amy

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  6. Vera Nazarian

    Jed,

    Huge sympathies on the commute. Maybe you can get them to let you work at home! Best of luck.

    Living in L.A. I’ve had about a decade of commuting 80 miles a day round trip, and sometimes more, and yes, there have been days where I’d spend 6 hours on the road.

    There’s got to be a bettr way that thnis waste of our life.

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  7. Joe

    Wow, that really sucks. If my company tried to add an hour and a whole lot of extra inconvenience to my commute, I’d seriously consider looking for a new job. I live and work in NYC, and one of the reasons is that I don’t like to spend my life in transit. So you have my sympathies, and I hope you find some plan that works for you…

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  8. Beth

    *Hugs* and *bon-bons*

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  9. SarahP

    Ugh. Sympathy on the commute.

    But the pink blossoms were lovely. Thanks.

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  10. Dan

    Ouf, that’s unfortunate. Crossing my fingers for increased freedom for you to work from home…

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  11. Sandra McDonald

    Jed,

    That really stinks.

    At my last job I did a lot of traveling–sometimes to our home office (30 minutes), sometimes to satellite office #1 (45 minutes), sometimes to satellite office #2 (1 hour by train). The schedule varied just enough to land me in rush hour a lot of the time, and rush hour in the middle of Boston’s Big Dig was a nightmare.

    After 2 years I left that job for the one I have now, which is 2 miles from home. I’m now spoiled rotten.

    I have a friend who commutes 2.5 hours each morning and night, and he gets a lot done on the train, but I think it’s very wearying.

    Good luck with working from home. Or maybe on finding something closer to home…

    Sandra

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  12. Jean

    Aww… Jed. I feel your pain. But at least we’ll be able to swap commute stories.

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  13. Colin

    Jed-

    I can empathise with you more than you can imagine. I went from a 6 minute commute, to stay at home dad to a 50 minute BART ride and additional 10-20 minute walk (depending on the speed I’m walking) uphill both ways to work (ahh, San Francisco 🙂

    The funny thing is, I’ve come to enjoy the commute in some ways.

    The walk, as you mentioned, is good for you. Going uphill in the morning, I actually push to the point of race walking which gets my heart some exercise, but, more importantly, clears out whatever residual sleep I have in my system and I find I’m focusing better at work.

    The pleasant part is actually the train ride. Granted, I get on BART at Fremont which is the beginning of the line so I’m always guaranteed a seat, though I did have a friend who commuted via CalTrain from the San Mateo stop and had no problems finding a seat. With that said, I find the trip on BART is good for napping, reading, writing or working.

    It occurs to me that you could probably use the CalTrain time to read manuscripts for SH, work on your own writing etc.

    Anyway, that’s my 25 cents on the matter.

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