“You don’t owe prettiness to anyone”
I think I linked to Erin McKean's excellent 2006 post “You Don't Have to Be Pretty” at some point, but...
Receiving someone else’s Gmail
I've seen many situations where someone was worried that their email account had gotten combined with someone else's account. (Most...
Belly
The problem started, for me, in fifth grade. There was a class field trip to a swimming pool. The night...
Crowdfunding an sf anthology? Some suggestions
I've seen a couple of Kickstarter/Indiegogo listings for crowdfunded sf anthology projects that don't mention some important-to-me issues. Some crowdfunded-anthology...
Why I don’t get professional massages
A friend asked me a while back why I was so averse to getting a massage from a professional. Here's...
Cute disclaimer
I recently watched the animated movie A Cat in Paris, which turned out to be super-charming (thanks to whoever it...
Wordless “conversations” and the Bechdel test
There was a link the other day (from a non-public Facebook post) to a blog post about Pacific Rim and...
The historical accuracy defense
Fairly often in discussions of sf, especially in discussions of epic fantasy, fans use the idea of historical accuracy to...
Body autonomy
Here's a simple guideline that I wish more people in our society would follow: Don't touch other people without their...
Some notes on harassment
I just happened across a 2012 chat among female Rookie magazine staffers, discussing and listing a few dozen instances of...
Law and Downey on the Sherlock/Watson bromance
Every time I try to link to this quote, I discover that none of my links to it are easily...
Showing vulnerability
I noticed this pattern in myself a few years ago: I'll say something in email, or in a public post,...